Posts from June 2016 (Page 3)

Q.    We squabble over money and this is fast becoming a problem in our Marriage. What can we do? We really want to serve the Lord. A.   The Lord is committed to you, and also to leading you out of your quandary. Thus your first step is listening to Him. If you can both embrace His way and Word, you’re well on the way to knowing His victory over your dilemma. Then: Trust your Lord totally. Money gives people a sense…

Q.    Money is a problem in my marriage? How can I stop it? A.    No matter how much money or goods we have, we could always use a little more; we’re never quite satisfied with what we have. When will it ever be enough? According to Hebrews 13:5, 6, the answer is never – because money and goods are only temporary. To pin our hopes for happiness on material possessions is to ask to be dissatisfied. The Bible talks a…

Q.   Does Marriage excuse couples from activities in the Body of Christ? A.   Forgive me for not understanding your question; please feel free to address the issue if I don’t satisfy your question. It is sadly true that when some marry, they become so wrapped up in their new experience that they tend to fade out of the “Church Scene.’ This amazes me since, as a young couple, their relationship with each other will have taken its direction and life from their…

Q. What must I do if I feel I have the wrong Marriage Partner? A. Get to your local oversight as quickly as possible. Your very thought reveals a headlong direction into disaster. In any event, our Q&A Forum is far too small to explore the implications of your question. Suffice it to say that Marriage is a lot more important than many people think with their ‘hop in and hop out’ mentalities. God honours your Marriage Vows, and so…

Q.   Love kind of leaked out of our Marriage but we enjoy mutual respect and a good working arrangement. But my wife doesn’t think that’s enough. A.   God made Marriage and He made Love for Marriage and Marriage for Love. Since God is Love, Love has little or no meaning without Him. He alone founds, supports and grows love. Love is as great and as complex as God is. Three words for Love speak of the three kinds of Love He wants…

Q.   My husband is a really good man, but is not saved. I received Jesus six months ago and dearly want him to have what I’ve found in Him. How can I lead him to the Lord without offending him? A.   While Salvation is an intimate matter between a human being and God, you can play an important part in bringing your husband to the Lord. Your role will be one of: Informing him about what Jesus means to you. Imparting God’s…

Q.    Help! My mother-in-law is driving me crazy. When she visits, she tells me how to run my house; nothing ever satisfies her. It’s really starting to wear me down. What can I do? A. This is a difficult situation, but you can, and should, take some steps to address it. Since this is not only an issue between you and her, but also actually a couple issue, your husband, as head of your home, will need to protect you…

Q.    My spouse doesn’t share my passion for spiritual things. How can I deal with my frustration and sadness? A.   In a Marriage Manual the first chapter could be, “You Can’t Change Another Person.” Many could have avoided a lot of frustration and strife in their Marriage if they’d realised from the start that their partner wasn’t likely to be any closer to their design after ten years of marriage than on their Wedding Day. Instead of feeling they’d been deceived,…

Q. I’m falling out of love with my husband (and he with me), and I’m tempted to have an affair. What would be the harm? A. If you’re not serious about your relationship with God, then go ahead and do as you please. Of course, there will be consequences – possibly eternal! That’s precisely Satan’s plan for, and the world’s attitude towards, God’s Institution of Marriage. However, if you’re a woman of integrity, and have given your life to the…

Q.   What scope is there for a divorced woman in the Body of Christ? A.   Regular Seminars on The Woman’s Place in the Body of Christ are run at Golden Harvest; get to one of these anointed and inspiring weekends! Irrespective of her past, the Elders will care for any woman coming into the Body of Christ. Observing her sincere and humble walk with the Lord they will guide her, mostly through her husband, into serving the Lord and her blessed role…

Q.    My husband has become distant. How can I draw closer? A.   When a spouse is distant the partner often withdraws, creating an even bigger gap. Or else the partner may pester the spouse to open up and cause annoyance or even anger. There is a reason for the distance; allow him to come to terms with it and tell you about it. Tell him that you know he is going through a difficulty of one kind or another and that…

Q.   Arguments in Marriage are OK, and even beneficial. Why all this fuss about living in harmony? A.   Anger, frustration and depression, so often found in Marriages, relate to not getting one’s own way. This leads in turn to domination of one party over the other with attendant abuse and hurt, physical and psychological, both resulting in spiritual damage. In Eph 4:26 God’s Word requires us to settle these issues right away, especially in Marriage. He has no support for sustained or…